2. Build A Support Team One of the most common methods that an abuser uses to take control is through isolation. When you become dependent upon your abuser – whether for finances, companionship, interaction, or anything else – that gives them a level of control over you. The more isolated you are from everyone else, the more you need them, which gives them control over you. To escape your abuser and start your new, independent life, you need to do the opposite of isolating yo
1. Create a Safety Plan The most important thing you need in preparing for a separation is a safety plan. When you are in a domestic violence relationship, separation is typically the most dangerous time and when the risk of lethality is highest. Leaving immediately and urgently for your safety and to preserve your life or your children’s lives is something you must do if needed. If there is an imminent risk to your safety, you need to get out the first chance you get, whethe
The July 4th holiday is quickly approaching and celebrates the signing and issuance of the Declaration of Independence. While often considered the start of the United States, the seeds of revolution had been planted long before through discontent over taxation and many other issues and included actual battles fought at Lexington and Concord more than a year before July 4, 1776. Your separation, divorce, and personal “Independence Day” from your abuser are not much different.